Fear In It’s Many Forms
Fear can be paralyzing. Most procrastination is often masked as fear. We like to label ourselves as “procrastinators” but we are often just afraid. Fear can take so many forms; fear of failure, fear of what others think, fear of success, fear of making a mistake, fear of losing, fear of letting go, fear of starting over, fear of change, fear of new beginnings and fear of endings. The list goes on. So many people have dreams, aspirations, passions and desires for things that are outside of their daily routine, outside of their comfort zones. It takes courage to leave your comfort zone and try something new, I know.
Trying New Things
I have tried so many new things that I was interested in over the years; Home Staging, working with disabled children instead of adults, starting my own school/home support service for families with children with disabilities and/or behavior challenges, personal trainer, clean eating coach, and I even took a flower arranging course at the end of my second pregnancy.
Apart from running, these are all strong interests of mine. But I “failed” at all of them. For one reason or another, they just didn’t work out. Either it was the timing, my interest wasn’t strong enough, I didn’t put enough effort into it, I discovered that I hated it, and for some I just lost interest! But once I found something that really fed my soul, helped me to shine in my own light, aided in my personal growth, empowered me, drove me, and opened an entire set of new doors for me..I went with it! These are just some of the things that my passion for running, training and competing has brought to my life.
Do I regret ANY of the things that I tried? Absolutely not! I learned things about myself and others during each of those attempts at something new. They were all individual journeys that I grew and took from. Sure, I was disappointed when some of them didn’t work out, but I knew it was for the best and I was still very proud of myself for at least trying! I never thought of any of them not working out as failures. I thought and still think of them as experiences.
Leaving Your Comfort Zone
I am not saying that it was easy to take these risks and leave my comfort zone, but it was necessary. Great things don’t come from comfort zones! I would never know what I am capable of, what I truly have “in me” to accomplish, nor would I know what I really do NOT want to do if I didn’t kick fear to the curb and take these risks.
With regards to my running, I still have all types of fears but I work on them daily, and I make sure that they are gone by race day. Even starting this blog was a HUGE fear for me. I was terrified! I was worried about being laughed at, scared of boring people, fearful of people making cruel comments, and scared that it would suck! But it doesn’t matter..even if all these fears come true, this risk/trial belongs to me. It benefits me and fulfills another lifelong dream of mine, that’s all that matters in the end. At least I had the courage to try..most people never will. And luckily, I have a very strong support system that encouraged me to go through with this blog. I am so glad I did…
So tell me, what would you attempt if you weren’t afraid? I would love to hear from you! Maybe we can work together to help you take your first step. I always say “just begin”, start somewhere, one tiny step forward is all you need”.
“When you recognize that failing doesn’t make you a failure, you give yourself permission to try all sorts of things”.